Surreal 


the reality of me leaving BC is getting closer. Home is being inspected, I have 2 buyers wanting to live in my house.  Most would be jumping for joy!  I still have such mixed emotions and will leave it at that!

So, I treat myself to a good lunch and remind myself that I will get to see my bike soon and there are many many reasons to move back “home”.

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Quick breakdown of ADV Boots for 2015


March 16th 2015

Philly, PA

I own the TCX Desert boot and the Alpinestars Toucan.  Older models and both Gore Tex.  TCX runs narrower than the AP.  If you order TCX boots I would go up a size and I would recommend both these boots for the price. 100% H20 proof but if you have wider feet the AP Toucan and the Sidi will work better for your fitment.

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Saying Good Bye is NEVER Easy…


March 14th 2015 (videos included)

One of my MOST favorite pictures of Sierra

If you LOVE dogs like I love mine then you will understand why I feel compelled to do an entire post about saying good-bye to my best friends.  One of the hardest things over the year has been knowing that life changes comes with many consequences.

Cheryl took this photo

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Lost in the Shuffle & My Therapy Bike


March 9th 2015

Peaceful Maryland – 2015 Winter X Country Trip

Time is flying by and at times I feel like it’s all happening to fast yet too slowly.  “It” being my transition from Canada back to the USA.  I feel like I have been speaking about this for a long time but my decision to move really was only confirmed back in November 2014.  Yet, my life changes seem ongoing and at times I have to admit I feel a bit scared and nervous of the so many unknowns. Continue reading

Depression, anxiety and self image… why do we do it to ourselves? ~ Gelände Straßetastic


A dear Virtual friend writes from his heart about a topic not many talk about.  I congratulate George for taking the time and having the courage to share his own personal story and journey.

Please visit George’s blog by clicking the below link….👍

Depression, anxiety and self image… why do we do it to ourselves? ~ Gelände Straßetastic.

I’ll get straight to the point—I’ve been going through a rough patch. In brief, my last remaining grandparent, my maternal grandmother, is quickly reaching the end of her life. Combined with a very busy and stressful time at work at the moment, this has caused me to re-evaluate my own life—doing so has caused depression and anxiety (D&A) to bubble up after so many successfully years of keeping it under the surface. This has caused some apathy and a loss of focus on the things I normally love doing, such as motorbiking and keeping my blog regularly updated.

Many (and I will boldly say the majority of) people suffer D&A to varying degrees. I believe genetics play a part in being prone to D&A, as I can trace it up my family tree on my mum’s side. Because D&A is an ‘invisible’ illness, there is a stigma associated, and I feel the need to share what it’s like, from my perspective, to live with this, in the hopes that it will be of value to someone else. Doing so makes me feel exposed and somewhat vulnerable, but the stigma needs to be broken one person at a time.

In my own words:

  • Depression: When you don’t care about anything.
  • Anxiety: When you care too much about everything.

Like many people, for me these come as an ironic, vicious circle of a package. D&A leaves me conflicted—getting into a rut means I start worrying that I don’t care about anything, escalating into my mind running a million miles an hour. This triggers the fight-or-flight response meaning frequent adrenaline highs (butterflies in the stomach) and preventing wind-down at night which means really shitty sleeps—compounding everything.

My D&A causes me body/self image issues. Those who know me casually or professionally would likely say I am a confident, self-assured person holding my head up high, but in reality I have simply mastered the ability to project this image, or mask, or ‘gloss’. It’s what people expect—they don’t want to know what’s going on under the surface… and rightfully so, they have their own things to deal with.

In my own words:

  • Self image: When you can’t see yourself the way other people see you.
  • Narcissism: Seeking approval from others for your appearance, then hating yourself for doing it, then doing it again, over and over.

I fight with my self image every day. At its best it might be wishing I didn’t have dark circles around my eyes—at worst it’s coming to a realisation that other people love me more than I love myself. At the same time I recognise how stupid and illogical it is to suffer from this ridiculous condition.

Like a lot of people, I post far too many selfies of myself (aka gpoys, headshots etc). There is something oddly comforting about having people on Facebook or Instagram say nice things said about you and it gives a ‘quick fix’ to self image problems. However, it’s like opening Pandora’s box—do it once, and you want to relive the ‘high’ of the experience, so you do it again. My D&A then causes me to worry: “What if the next time no one likes the photo?”

Selfies allow so much control through lighting and angles that they are really an idealised image of one’s self. They give you the ability to present what, in your mind, is the perfect image of yourself—but they are not how other people see you. In essence, they are frauds—everyone knows this. So they don’t actually help improve self image issues in the long run.

Seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes, however, does help.

The photos at the end of this post were taken by one of my closest friends Andy, who has little photographic experience. I knew he was taking them but not *when* he was going to start snapping away, so there is an element of candidness—they are not posed. As a photographer, I know when people pose, they are attempting to form themselves into what they believe is their best look—facial expression, posture, angle etc—but this is almost never the case.

These are rare photos I can look at and not pick myself apart so much—I feel like I look a confident and sorted person for once, and I feel good about myself. I believe changing my appearance by growing out my beard to the ‘big’ stage has played a part as well. The picking is still there a little bit, bubbling away just below the surface—my shirt is one or two sizes larger than it should be, my beanie is turned up on one edge, I have sweat marks where my camera bag’s padded strap was pressing my shirt onto my skin (we’d just briskly walked more than 10 miles). Nevertheless, this is a huge step forward for me.

I completely understand that self/body image issues are ‘only in my mind’—yet I can’t stop it. Others may look at the photos and think ‘how could this person have body image issues’, or ‘he looks intimidating, I wouldn’t want to run into him in a dark alley’, or ‘he looks cuddly’, or ‘what a bruiser’—everyone applies their own preferences, tastes and biases to photos.

But for once, I’m ok with my appearance… ok that my Nordic/Viking genes have made me a barrel-chested, stocky-built person… ok that my Mediterranean genes have given me dark circles around my eyes… ok with the person I’ve become after 40 long years on this earth. And that makes today a good day.

One step at a time. For the minute I’ve moved forward with my self image—next is to move a step forward with my D&A. When my grandmother’s time comes, the funeral will help provide closure to that particular source of D&A. Spring is coming which means trips out to the byways on my bikes—one of my favourite ways of distancing myself from my troubles. Motorbiking requires 100% concentration—no time to dwell on other things.

I think the most effective way to deal with D&A is to believe that you will come through it. This
empowers you to make the changes required to choose to be a happier person. For some people that means changing a job or school, moving to a different city, removing the negativity from their lives. For others it is distracting themselves with activities they enjoy and not allowing themselves to get bored to the point that the D&A resurfaces. Everyone is different and there is no single answer.

Once things get better again—and they will get better—I will be in a good place to make regular blog entries again. Right now I’m taking some much-needed ‘me’ time. Until then, I continue to appreciate all the people who have read and commented on my past entries and hope to welcome you back soon. As always I will be monitoring and replying to comments, and I would be particularly grateful for your thoughts on this entry.

As a final note, thank you to Leslie from Advgrrl for encouraging me to publicly post this entry in the hopes that others may find benefit in reading it.

George
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Touring Vancouver & Eastward Collage


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Looking Through My Lens…Vancouver & Greater Vancouver Beauty


February 18th 2015

Alouette Lake, Golden Ears Provincial Park, BC

I have a friend from New York visiting me here in BC.  We actually flew back together after my amazing 2015 Winter X Country ride.  Should really rename my last trip to Spring Like Ride. 😉 Anyway, I am back to BC and for this week playing tourist.  Soaking all the beauty my area has with my friend.

panoramic

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Why February 11th Was The Day…


Pretty much the reason I focused on Feb. 11th to finish my Winter X Country trip is in my video.  Amazing how the regional forecasts I was following all on my trip were correct about mid February on here in NY.  Blizzard warnings for Valentines Day, today Feb. 14 and another storm coming in next week.  I just hope I can fly out to Vancouver tomorrow.

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Boots, Tires and Resting Place for My Bike


My boots, Alpinestars Toucans need new soles.  I am a short rider for the F8 and often have to really push off my left boot to get the bike up from its stand and it shows.  Still an amazing boot for the price and 100% H20 proof and so comfortable.  My Heidenau K60 Scout tires are the bomb.  Keep the PSI up and they last forever.  Rear has over 17,000 KM’s and still has plenty of tread left and the front has over 14,000 and is in really good shape.

My bike will stay in this exact place until I get back to the USA.  First time we are separated and yes, I will have a difficult time not being able to ride back in BC.  But…at least she has a spot with a window view 😉

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The LAST 110 Feet, The Break IN – 2015 Winter Trip Day 29


2015 Winter Trip FINAL Track – January 14th – February 11th.

February 12th 2014 – Day 29 my Last Day Riding – short video clips are part of this post and click on the pics for higher resolution

final mileage or 8131 miles

Original Route looked like this which was always just a rough idea

original idea

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Amazing Ride Williamsburg to Chestertown, MD – Day 28


30F or .5C raining and cold

February 10th 2015 – Day 28

My track as of Day 28 – Second to last day

I had a great short visit with my best friend from undergrad and her partner.  Ann Marie and Allison are two very genuine people who do amazing things within their own careers.  As always gracious hosts and a place I could call home.  Thanks guys for the hospitality and  welcome.  Continue reading