January 30th , 2015 – Day 16 & 17

I had this whole reflection post about my last year drafted but I deleted it. Today is my one year anniversary that my ex told me she was going to leave and never looked back. I am not not going to harp on the details but in a nutshell, after 17 years together as common law, only 4 months married I was dumped. On February 2nd, she was gone forever and we are legally separated without even discussing anything. I never asked her to stay, I went along with her decision.
So, today is surreal as my life as a result of this break up has taken a turn into a direction I never knew would happen. In between jobs, lives and even countries that is part of the reason I took this trip. Drop my bike off one way hopefully to New York, fly back to BC, sell my house, pack up everything and drive my car x country when the time is right to begin a whole new life closer to my family/friends etc.
All of those out there going through a separation? I don’t envy you but if I have learned one important lesson is that you truly can’t control things you can’t control. I stopped fighting that although I slip every so often and still find myself asking why me? I am doing my best to embrace all these changes at once and this ride yet again is helping me keep things into perspective and look at this transition as a once in a lifetime opportunity.
So, Happy 1 year to me…I made it and starting out 2015 in my own right way, a crazy long one way ride across the USA in winter.
Yesterday’s ride was all interstate to make up for time. I left New Orleans after chatting with the boys of the valet…Doubletree Hotel
They made sure my bike was safe and enjoyed my travels. I left NO with fond memories to head to Florida. I cruised through Mississippi, Alabama and then Florida.
I should be at my first destination in about 589 KM’s. I will get some rest at my parents snow bird place down here and see some cousins I hope. I also will keep an eye on the weather and safely make my destination to Long Island as planned.
I can handle cold so let’s hope the roads stay clear or almost clear and I can complete this ride. I am so tempted to make a U-Turn and head back really south but I need to be back by Valentines day. So, stay focused and stay with my plan.

The weather for my ride on Day 16 was perfect. Upper 60’s most of the day and sun. Tons of bridges low over the water…and mainly straight riding. Not many pics just focused on the “boring” ride. My left speaker for the my Bluetooth has died. I ordered a replacement from Revzilla to be sent to Florida. I need my music and books especially for the trek to NY.

How’s this for an analogy. I am heading blindly through a new tunnel of life and at the end…let’s hope a new job, new life, new love and eventually some stability. So, that is my one year update. If anyone wants to find out more just type divorce in the search bar. My older posts will pop up.
That’s it for now. I need to take a few days off the bike and I will after today. Keep an eye on the east coast weather and post here if anything out of the ordinary pops up that I might be missing. Thanks everyone for caring enough to read my blog. Off to get coffee. Leslie




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